“What does sex PROVIDE for you? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is a really great question that is worth reflecting on for individuals and couples. When we figure out what sex provides for us, we understand why we want to have sex in our lives. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Perhaps different types of sex provide different things for you. Here’s some examples: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ‘Quick rough sex provides physical release and leaves me feeling less tense and better able to focus.’ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ‘A long love making session provides me with deep connection, intimacy and a long lasting feeling of connection to my beloved that lasts for days.’ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ‘Oral sex provides a feeling that my lover really loves ALL of me … it provides a feeling of being worshipped.’ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, what does sex PROVIDE for you? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Firstly, think about your own response. And then, if you’re in a relationship, ask your partner the same question and open up the conversation so that you can better understand each other. This convo doesn’t need to be serious, it can be fun and exciting to talk about this together. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we know what sex provides for each other as a couple, then we are often more inclined to want to engage in it (this helps when one partner wants it more than the other, or neither of you are feeling like it) so we can provide that for our beloved. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And for those not in a relationship, knowing what sex provides for you gives you a better understanding of your sexuality and can explain why you desire to have sex in your life and why it’s a healthy part of life that needs to be prioritized.” —Juliet Allen
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